School report for Mother Inferior: empathy and understanding D-

If you’re looking for an antidote to the annual posts from proud parents about amazing school reports, then I am happy to share my tale of woe.


My 9 year old daughter Faith is steadfastly refusing to follow the script following a less than stellar report. It wasn’t terrible, but apparently, I am unjust in pointing out that the ‘satisfactory’ for effort in Maths might be something she needs to work on.

The reasonable, frank, mature discussion I had envisaged has descended into a series of tit for tat responses in which Faith has repeatedly escalated her level of insults and outrage (currently I am the ‘worst mum in the world’, she wants to ‘move out to a children’s home’ and I clearly ‘never loved her from when she was born’).

I, in turn, have had to issue consequences (including a 3 day TV ban) that I neither intended or wanted to give because I recognise that I can’t let my 9 year old succeed in shouting down all opposition and  rewriting reality until it suits her own version of events (although clearly these behaviours suggest she may well be laying the foundations for a successful career in politics!).

All in all, reports season so far has been rather stressful and we are all licking our emotional wounds and preparing to de better with report number 2 this evening.

Now sign me up for that positive parenting course and I’ll be posting my ‘proud parent’ status updates before you know it!

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  1. Bec @IshMotherBec says:

    Thank you for your honesty. As the mother of a child with emotional and behavioural difficulties, I’m dreading her report and all the proud parent posts are just salt in the wound (although I know I’d be guilty of boasting too if I had a well behaved kid!) It’s refreshing to hear someone be honest about this issue. I hope things improve soon for you and your daughter.

    • Helena says:

      Thanks for your comment. It’s tough when things seem great for everyone else isn’t it? My main thing is always that I never seem to get it right with my parenting to help make things better. It’s just such a hard job!!

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